Feb 24 2009
10 Things Guys Love about Girls part1
Greetings, Ladies
Christa asked me to be a guest blogger on her Empowered Traditionalist site and so for the first time here is an article which, whether you see yourself as a girl, woman or lady, I hope will encourage, inspire and dignify you.
Ten Things Guys Love About Girls
Before I begin there are a few things that I should mention. First of all, a little-known truth: there are so many things about you which enchant us guys (those of us who are in touch with the higher brain functions ^_^) that this article will never be complete. I would be unable to speak on behalf of all men. So, perhaps I should just add to it from time to time whenever I think or hear of something that we men love about you.
If you’re trusting and hoping that God will bring you a suitable man one day, then be encouraged, because you have so many ways of leaving us spellbound without even knowing it! You may not consider yourself to be that attractive but you can win our attention without even trying. You’re a girl, therefore logic and the law of probability dictate that sooner or later you will deeply impress a man, just the way He intended.
1/ We love your expressive behaviour, particularly the way your eyes smile and sparkle when you laugh. We love that wide-eyed expression of yours when something excites or amazes you. And to be truthful, we love that cute “puppy” face you use on us (come on, girls, you know the one I’m talking about! ^_^) when you want something – and what’s so infuriating is that it works! ^_^
2/ We love some of the mannerisms which you take for granted. It might be something as simple as tucking a lock of hair behind your ear. Such a “feminine” thing to do.
3/ We love what you do with your hair: slide-combs, clips, grips, pony-tails, plaits, curls, waves, fringes, braids, bows and (a personal favourite) ribbons that flutter and dance behind you in the breeze when you walk around.
4/ We love your frequent willingness to help or “problem-solve” in any situation.
5/ We love that confident but gentle way you carry yourselves. Your poise and grace and the way your voices can sometimes have a soothing tone. Your uncontrived, guile-less manner so unlike the attention-seeking, manipulative ditziness of some others.
part 2 coming tomorrow….
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Thanks, Gentleman, for the encouragement!
Wow, that’s really amazing… Thank you so much!
I echo Anna and Jessica! That last paragraph…..that is what I strive to always be. Can’t say I’m there yet. Thanks again! Can’t wait till tomorrow!:)
One other thing… it’s sweet of you to bless us in this way, but… Do you tell your wife the things that captivate you about her? Have you written a special list like this just for her from you? “…cause to the world you’re just another girl. But to me, Baby, you are the world…” If you do these sorts of things I expect she’ll go crazy for you!
Anne
I’m very pleased to have encouraged you.
SENSATIONAL idea with the list for my wife. And I love that phrase, “… But to me, Baby, you are the world”. I can always use advice on how to be more romantic.
Thank you! ^_^
I echo Anna and Jessica! That last paragraph… that is what I strive to always be. Can’t say I’m there yet. Thanks again! Can’t wait till tomorrow!:)
One other thing… it’s sweet of you to bless us in this way, but… Do you tell your wife the things that captivate you about her? Have you written a special list like this just for her from you? “…cause to the world you’re just another girl. But to me, Baby, you are the world…” If you do these sorts of things I expect she’ll go crazy for you!
Wow…this is so encouraging. Thank you for taking the time to do this.
Aww so sweet!!
I love the picture too…..
Wow! That was so nice to read! I couln’t keep the smile off my face!!!
Thank you!!!
what a great list! That is so encouraging! I love it when boys tell us girls things like that!!!
“. . . Manipulative ditziness. . .” Now that’s a phrase to remember.
Thank you, sah.
Yes, I guess that is a bit of a rare one. You’ll find I might be a tad creative with the English language from time to time. Sorry.
But you’ve probably encountered that kind of girl (and worryingly that kind of guy sometimes) who acts helpless or “dizzy”, just to be the center of attention, receive help with simple tasks, or otherwise get what they want from you. Instead of being forthrght, up-front or honest with you, they adopt this kind of contrived, phoney behaviuor. Now, perhaps I’m reading too much into the situation, but that seems like a case of manipulation to me….
Be blessed and prosper.
Gentleman
Please, sir, don’t you DARE apologize for being “a tad creative with the English language.” That’s what makes writing interesting! I mean, if I was not creative with English, would I have written an essay on the life cycle and migrating habits of a Marshmallow Peep? No, probably not.
But to get back on topic, indeed, that fairly smacks of manipulation. Thankfully, though, I am not much around such behavior – so there’s little chance it’ll ever rub off on me.
Lol! Marshmallow Peeps!
Alright, so I am reading this, I am a guy, and I am feeling a bit misrepresented by this article.
It appears a lot of people were very pleased by the fact that there are guys who appreciate true femininity, which is great, however, I was really quite frustrated with this article because of how it seems to represent what we see femininity as.
Maybe I was missing the point, but I really felt like much of this post was a bit of a “Don’t worry girls, skirts are hot too.” Whereas what true femininity is represented by has 0% to do with clothing.
(1) I have met some very feminine, very nice, and very attractive people that have not chosen to do the ’skirts all the time’ thing. That is a personal preference, and choosing to wear skirts or to wear pants does not, in any way, reflect on who you are as a lady. Seemingly representing “skirts and dresses” as the most dainty, feminine thing girls can do is really nothing more than legalism.
(2) It has always seemed to me that true femininity is not what you wear, but it is what you do. Part of my concern with this article is that I really felt like it was saying don’t worry, guys will like you even if you wear this. Is the goal of “true femininity” to be modest and attract guys anyways? It seems to me that a truly feminine woman would not desire having men attracted to her, just one man, one day, in God’s timing.
(3) Every guy wants to marry a beautiful girl. (Yes. True statement, the secret is out). However, no guy worth marrying wants to marry an only beautiful girl. In fact, you should not be on the lookout for a guy that thinks “You’re beautiful in a skirt too” but for a guy that would love you even if he did not think you were initially attractive.
(4) Last point. Always remember that love will breed beauty, but beauty never breeds love. Truly feminine women seek to cultivate a heart of beauty and the man that loves that heart will swear to himself a thousand times that you are the fairest maiden in the land.
Look for guys who love your spirit, they will also love the way you look. Just because a guy likes your feminine apparel does not really paint him in a positive manner.
Just my $0.02 on the article,
~Another guy.
Greetings Josh,
Thank you for taking the time and effort to clearly elucidate your thoughts. It is appreciated.
You’re exactly right on every point, and as I mentioned in my response to Cherish (see above) we are not setting a legalistic standard by any means. The tendency when addressing this topic, or any topic related to dress, is to plunge into rules and regulations. There are 2 ditches on either side of the road, and we are striving to walk in the middle without falling into either ditch.
Assuming that girls already have a discerning lens to view this issue through, it is encouraging to be reminded (from the guys) how much femininity is valued. Knowing, as you mentioned, that femininity first emanates from the heart and can be implemented a thousand different ways in real life.
AMEN, CHRISTA!!!!
Couldn’t agree more with JoshD & Christa.
When I was asked to write the article, the intention was to list, with reasons, ten things men *like* about women. Women are centered on relationships and the way people treat them. Now, it may be regrettable, but men are centered on the way things *appear* to them; we’re hard-wired that way. Hence a certain emphasis; feminine clothes are the most obvious visible sign of a ‘feminine’ woman. It’s part of the way that all people ’stereotype’ eachother. Feminine clothes/appearance generate a positive stereotype. Thank God that a decent man can rein-in his hormones and deal with the ladies in a proper manner! And a natural response is to positively stereotype the apparently feminine woman who is SO much more pleasant to deal with/help than the apparently aggressive, liberal, “manly” females of the world that can occasionally be encountered.
Here’s an idea:-
If you saw me in baggy jeans with the butt dragging in the dust, ball-cap worn sideways, hoody-shirt and vulgar jewellery you might possibly stereotype me as having quite a low IQ, amongst other less savory characteristics. An unavoidable first impression: you might dismiss me as “gangster trash”. We shouldn’t “judge a book by its cover” but we do.
I was in a congregation that was legalistic for quite some time and I can tell you that was a waste of time and service. So the last thing we want to do is create a legalistic mindset. Instead we hope to encourage you, in a Godly way, to keep doing what you’re doing! ^_^
Be blessed
Have fun
Gentleman
Cute post! I had no idea…
I just realized I said a man’s post was “Cute.” I think that is a major no-no.
I meant…ahem, great post!
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That’s a great post! This opened up my mind as to what guys (or at least some–and hopefully the Godly kind!) find likable in girls.
Thank you so much, Gentleman!
God bless you
OH! this is so timely and so good! Thank you for writing it! I was so encouraged!
Amanda
I just thought I’d let you know that I put a link to this post on my ‘Blogoversary Afterparty!’ post on Living Water!
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