Feb 25 2009
10 Things Guys love about Girls part2
…continued from part 1
6/ We love your scatter-brained craziness and some of the insane things you do like rolling down grassy hills or leaping around the living room to yur favourite CD (and getting the words wrong!) or twirling in your skirts and dresses! The twirling thing is an absolute charm!
7/ We absolutely adore it when you wear your feminine clothes like blouses, skirts, dresses and shoes that don’t have a certain swoosh or motif in the side. And you don’t necessarily have to adorn yourselves with all the latest accessories, jewelry and other enhancements. Maybe some of us guys aren’t intelligent, articulate or kind enough to compliment you on how pretty you might look; maybe we’re afraid you’ll suspect our motive for saying something nice. But if we comment negatively, here’s a piece of advice: ignore us. Whatever you do, don’t stop dressing like a girl… it helps to define you.
8/ You look so loveley whenever you wear some of those full skirts. They can be any kind, circular or pleated, but their volume and fullness gives you a romantic presence that has untold power. You look so beautiful and graceful when, as you take a seat, you skirt seems to flow everywhere(!) and the sound it makes whenever you move announces the presence of a real, genuine, feminine woman.
9/ How magic it is to walk beside you when you wear your skirts and dresses! You look so pretty and feminine as you swish along with us. You make us feel like men – gentlemen if we’ve got any sense. And if we’re lucky the breeze will catch your hem and brush it gently against us. Phew! I’m in the presence of a woman! Years ago, on a date with my soon-to-be wife, I remember that I couldn’t have imagined being with anyone prettier as strands of her hair drifted in the breeze and her dress swished, flowed, splashed and rippled as we walked along the beach. She made a beautiful picture
10/ You can steal our hearts without knowing it! We can sometimes remember even brief encounters with you years after they’ve happened. Why? Because of the powerful impression you made. It could have been something as simple as a smile you tossed over your shoulder when you said “See you later!”, but you can’t imagine the effect as your hair and clothes twirled outward.
You are so distracting. Who on Earth should a gentleman live for other than his girl?
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I will definitely be sharing this post with other’s in our young women’s prayer group. Thank you for giving us a man’s perspective. God bless.
Gosh! Flattering!
I agree with Maria! But what about if a girl doesn’t wear skirts?
You mean if she was obligated to wear pants?
Yes, exactly, Christa. I live in Minnesota. In the winter, it’s -25 with a foot of snow. There’s only so many pairs of leggings you can wear under your skirts!
lol, yea skirts are definitely impractical in that environment! I can’t imagine trying to snowboard or trek in the snow in a skirt, cumbersome and exhausting come to mind. Not to mention freezing.
Hear, hear, Jessica! Winters are pretty much the same as that in this part of Canada, too!
I also live in MN, and except for active outdoor activities (skiing, sledding, etc.) I wear skirts all winter. A pair of long underwear (or maybe two! Silk is great, and thin) and an extra slip do the trick for me. I also have several pretty flared wool skirts. My sister and I have agreed that we are actually WARMER in skirts.
Hear, hear, Jessica! Winters in this part of Canada are pretty much the same as that!
(Sorry, I thought the writing was too small on the first one!!)
– *Unless* you guys are talking Fahrenheit, in which case it’s a lot colder here!!
The point is, I think, he’s encouraging girls TO wear skirts!
Aww! That was SOO sweet! I cried. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. I often feel discouraged about guys. A lot of days I wonder “do they even notice? Do they even care??” It’s nice to hear that they do. Because a lot of times I despair. Guys just never get how much we NEED that compliment from them every once and a while. (or fairly often would be nice to!) But like you said they’re always afraid that their compliments will be taken as “Ooh! So and so likes you!” And all that crap. But it’s true we NEED it! (and by the way guys? Don’t worry. I won’t think like that if you compliment me. As long as your compliments are appropriate.) By the way? I’m definatley inspired to buy and wear more skirts. I rarely ever do ’cause I think “Who’s gonna notice?” But if skirts really do leave that much of an impression…
So thank you so much for this article.
~Harmony~
Ahhhh… Thank you to those much more smarter than me….
I’m sorry, I mis-understood you, Jessica.
that was so encouraging! sometimes I get so frustrated and tired of always wearing skirts (being a teenager and all…). Such a nice reminder that skirts/dresses really are way more feminine and pretty!!! Especially the long, full ones…
Thanks for the awesome post!
“. . .scatterbrained craziness. . .” Oh, how you make me laugh. Perhaps because the description fits me so well. . . . . . . . .
‘Tis nice to know skirts are appreciated, it urges me to wear them more often.
I know that this is incredibly typical, but why all the fuss about clothes? Is it so necessary to elaborate about them for 6 out of ten things?
Ah, Gentleman- I agree with whomever it was in the other post- Tell your wife these kinds of things that make you appreciate her! I am certain she would love it, and it has two benefits that come to mind immediately: 1- you make her feel even more loved, and 2- she will be able to make YOU feel even more loved because of this affirmation.
Thanks, again, for the encouragement and the affirmative words. You have a gift for encouragement.
Thank you so much for posting this! It’s great to know what you men think.
#6 is so me.
I have to be honest…some of these make me uncomfortable – really uncomfortable. The thought that random guys (not just a boyfriend or spouse, but any decent guy) is “distracted” by my hair ribbons fluttering in the breeze or the fact that my full skirt makes noise when I walk makes me want to become invisible. Past experiences (which I mentioned in a previous “skirt” post) probably contribute to this…but yeah, the thought of guys enjoying my femininity to this extent is disconcerting.
I am in two minds about this post.
First of all I really do appreciate your advice and insight into what men like about women. Its brilliant and its an encouragement and admornishmet to us young women. However, can we all agree that we need to captivate the heart of ‘one’ young man; the man God has set apart for us to marry and like KJ i must agree that it becomes disconcerting that every movement i make in a skirt (not that i wear them often and its not always practical for the lifestyle i live in) may stir up something in other men. That should not be the reason to wear skirts or dress modestly. I think I would rather wait for my future husband to tell me the things that he loves about my femininity.
Like I said i am in two minds about this!
Dear Cherish,
Our first and primary goal in dress, whether pants, skirts, dresses or jumpsuits, should be to bring honor to God. The point of this post was not to tout skirt wearing simply because men appreciate it, but rather to encourage women to be feminine, to be aware that dressing femininely does make a difference and to set ourselves apart from the culture by dressing in a way that reveals the beauty and grace of womanhood.
Perhaps, you are taking our author a bit too seriously, not every guy is going to go bonkers over hair ribbons. Honestly, it just takes a bit of time to work through these issues and find the balance that works for you.
This is not legalistic, skirt enforcing, “You have to wear skirts or you aren’t feminine” blog- nor will it ever be. We just want to encourage you, whatever you wear, to enjoy being a woman.
all my best,
Christa
Hi Christa,
I appreciate your insight and your response. Your blog is great and has inspired and encourage me in so many ways. I did try to communicate that I saw this article from a male perspective an encouragement to women to be more feminine in the way they dress, like you said to bring honour to God. I love using whatever clothing pieces i have to bring a feminine edge to my style and dressing modestly. I dont have men like the ‘gentlemen’ in my life who admonish me to be more feminine so i do hold a high regard for him taking the time to share how some christian men see women pursing biblical femininty.
Please forgive me if it seemed las though I was knocking the Gentlemans article I do apologize. I may have misinterpreted him or the clarity of response when i was talking about wanting to captivate the heart of one man who has been selected by God to select me was very vague. Also apologises to anyone who may have been offended by my response.
Thanks,
Have a beautiful and blessed day,
Cherish
No worries Cherish, I appreciated your honesty and didn’t sense any negativity. Just like yourself, we’re all trying to figure these things out.
Wow, thank you so much Gentleman! It really is encouraging to know that there are guys out there who notice girls in a nice way. I hope that the aura I give off inspires the guys around me to be gentlemen.
How sweet…thanks.
My reply to Cheri above didn’t come out clearly so I’ve reposted here:
Cherish
No apology necessary and if anyone needs forgiveness it’s me! Life is interesting not only because we can be similar to eachother but also because we can be so different. ^_^
Perhaps I should do the apologising for any failure to communicate correctly and for giving what may appear to be a vastly over-romanticised impression. The intention is to encourage, inspire and (importantly) dignify ladies who are tired of being told by the world that “feminine = seductive”. That’s not the case – and in emphatic terms I had hoped to convey that “feminine = modest” with some resons why. As for admonishing anyone, well, I’d be the least qualified to do that. ^_^
Oftentimes my wife wears jeans or slacks which is – please understand me – perfectly fine. ^_^ But when she fixes her hair a certain way or dons some of those girl-clothes, well, I only have eyes for her! ^_^ She looks terrific! I’m not afraid to pay another lady a compliment in the presence of others, an effort desrves a reward – but I’d never dream of doing so in any other situation. Too much risk of being misunderstood.
There’s no law stipulating what a woman should wear. Ladies who struggle with this are not condemned. Likewise, ladies who choose to dress femininely to varying degrees will not cause guys to start lusting. Guys don’t walk around with their tongues hanging out. ^_^ That’s an impression I’d hoped to avoid creating. A feminine woman isn’t necessarily a ‘guy-magnet’, but she can leave a positive, refreshing impact on someone so totally opposite to her – potentially the right man.
Everyone’s seen enough of the man or woman the world is trying to promote. Women have probably had enough of morally weak, irresponsible men and maybe men have seen enough of aggressive female versions of themselves… ^_^
So, whatever happens, don’t let the world and its values make you feel guilty for the choices you make, certainly in matters as personal as what you wear. If the world doesn’t like you being a lady, well TOUGH! You do what you want. and live according to the convictions God gives you^_^ If I can leave you feeling better about yourself then I’ve succeeded. Too many times in the past *I’ve* been made to feel bad about the most rediculous things – my accent, my nationality, clothes (yeah – been there), sunglasses(!) even the car I drove! – so I can identify ith you! ^_^
I can’t agree with Christa enough in this and I very much hope that this has helped correct any errors or misunderstandings.
With utmost respect
Gentleman
Gentleman,
I greatly appreciated your last comment there, I think that as a guy one of the neatest things about girls who dress modestly is that they don’t draw attention to their body but instead to who they are as a person. As someone attending a liberal college I can testify to the frustration of trying to get to know people who dress in an immodest fashion, it really makes it difficult for guys.
Props to all the ladies and an encouragement from another guy when you choose not to bring attention to yourself physically, but instead put who you are as a person and the things in your heart above those kinds of things. That’s why a guy really wants to get to know and will truly appreciate it.
It is important for guys and girls to live in a way that does not bring attention to themselves, but to God. This certainly is not just a ‘how you should dress’ issue, it is a how does someone act, speak, walk, talk and even think issue. Thanks to all the girls who want to glorify God and not themselves, the guys really appreciate it.
~Josh
Dear Anna – and every Lady who has posted on ET
In the “Where have all the Skirts Gone?” article, you gave me two occasions for grattitude. For the *third* time I find myself thanking ALL of you for the extraordinary and positive difference you continue to make in my life. Please allow me to explain:
Anna, I took your advice and that of the other wise lady you referred to in your post above (I apologise, your name escapes me as I type this off-line). I returned from work yesterday and shared a few kind remarks with my wife. The response I got was out of this world! It was like seeing one of those high-speed films where a beautiful flower blossoms in an instant! It was like dating again! I got the bright-eyed smile that you’re all so good at and during the rest of a fun-filled evening, saw all that crazy, whacky girl-stuff that you do when you get a tad zany!
My marriage, which I recently described as being somewhat “Beauty and the Beast”, is rapidly changing into “Cinderella and Prince Charming”! Why? Because of the growing respect I’ve found for all of you. In seeing how terrifically gentle, wise, sincere and feminine (you can keep adding to this part if you like ^_^) you all are I’ve realised my wife is not so very different from you. I’d like to believe that God has employed each one of you in some miraculous way, influencing me to see her with new eyes.
The response to my (slowly – I have to admit) changing behaviour is staggering! Today I returned from work and not only did I find my wife with beautifully fixed hair, in her pretty clothes (again), but also wearing an expensive perfume! GLOREEE TO GOD !!!! ^_^ I didn’t let that pass without an appreciative remark!
The better I treat my wife, the more feminine she becomes! And she’s pouring it on at Industrial Strength!
You cannot imagine the power you have, in being feminine in all your ways and when regulated by a Christ-like degree of modesty, how can you possibly go wrong? There will be ignorant fools who make ill-considered remarks, I’ve no doubt, but please do not be discouraged by the world in persuing your noble and Godly aims.
As I’ve suggested in other posts, your positive qualities go far beyond the way you look, it’s more to do with who you are.
No doubt you want to make difference in the world. Be encouraged. You already have.
Thank you
Gentleman
Praise God!
I am glad that your wife has responded so well to your compliments! She has a treasure in you. 
Gentleman, have you seen the movie, Fireproof? Perhaps you and your wife ought to see it- it’s about improving marriage. My parents saw it and they said it was a very good movie.
Keep appreciating your wife, and she will show you her appreciation
Wow! PTL! Thanks for sharing this, it really blessed me. I’m grateful that we could be an encouragement to you. Keep on pursuing your wife, just because you said, “I do,” doesn’t mean the chase is over. “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Eph. 5:25 Wow! Talk about a life-long goal!
I second Anna’s comment. Fireproof is definitely worth watching!!! We have watched it as a family and it is an amazing movie! I cried and I still do even though I’ve seen it several times…it’s just so touching!
Wow! Though I “took your post right” Gentleman, I really like how you expanded it in your comment to Cherish! Thanks again!
Josh, thank you so much for your comment! It something I’ve been thinking about. In fact, it was just yesterday I was discussing this with a girlfriend. I said to her, “Somebody should have conference, and all the Christian guys in the world should come to it. And there they would be taught how to encourage girls to be modest, or if they are modest, to tell them it’s not in vain. They could learn how to affirm us girls appropriately.”
I realize that’s a VERY hypothetical situation….. but it was a great thought anyhow.:) To you last paragraph, amen!! God bless you as you strive to serve Him! ~anne
JoshD –
(I got in a mess with my computer – here is the post I wanted to answer you with)
Thank you for the support in your excellent answer.
The immodest or indiscreet woman can introduce all kinds of assaults on the mind of a man who just wants to live clean and he finds himself looking at the floor, the ceiling or or anywhere but at her. That is why it is such a pleasure to encounter a modestly dressed, feminine woman – because, as you had suggested, there’s no guilt involved in seeing one.
Any man with a servant’s heart would most likely be delighted to assist such a woman in any way if needed, as I’d observed in another of my earlier posts. There’s a certain feeling of satisfaction we get from serving that kind of lady – it’s a pleasure to make her day easier and happier. Maybe it’s time for some of you ladies to let a little air out of a tire(!) ^_^
Gentleman
Gentleman,
Thank you so much for your encouraging post! I have many skirts in my closet but had gotten into a rut of only going between two different pairs of dress slacks at church. In the past month or so, I have had so much fun rediscovering my skirts and feeling feminine, and it has definitely brought me *different* attention…my guy friends treat me with more respect than they have in the past, and I am enjoying it immensely. It has carried over into other facets of life too; I’ve felt way more domestic and have found myself constantly baking and in the kitchen doing something.
Thank you again for your posts, I’m glad to know the different attention wasn’t all in my head.
Amanda
Thank you for such positive feedback! Isn’t it fantastic to rediscover a feeling you thought you’d lost? It reminds me of a time when I bought an old station-wagon similar to my dad’s – the one I’d learnt to drive in. It was more than worth the money just to feel like a high school student again!
And to think that your rediscovered experiences have caused the men in your peer-group to treat you more like a lady – OUT OF THIS WORLD!! TERRIFIC! ^_^ It’s amazing how a feminine woman can, without saying a word hopefully, trigger the right, gentelmanly, masculine response in a man. If only this would happen more! Then perhaps male/female relationships wold be more in keeping with God’s ways. I am delighted that your experiences have had the effect I’d hoped for.
A long time ago I tried a similar experiment (Er- no -I didn’t start wearing skirts! ^_^): instead of wearing the usual shirt and tie to work, I wore a *suit* and tie. Even though I had quite a lowly position, I was being given more responsible tasks, being invited to meetings and having the Boss asking for my opinions. All of this happened within a week! Positive stereotyping… it’s an interesting phenomenon. ^_^
The effect that it had on me, as a young man, was that I could be useful to someone, that I could make a difference and that there was hope for me to improve things.
Maybe other visitors to this site will be encouraged and inspired too.
Several things relating to this post came into mind yesterday, as my family was running errands.
We were walking towards the door of one shop, and there was a man sitting outside in a chair. I smiled at him, and I think most of the rest of us did too. He gave something that I must call a nod, but in reality, it was hardly that. He barely moved his head. Then he went right back to staring straight ahead of him.
It made me think. Not too terribly long ago, a gentleman would have smiled, tipped his hat, and stood up to get the door for me/us. Now, almost no one would. Why is that?
I think it is because now, women aren’t worth hat-tipping. For decades most of us have asserted that we are just like men, and don’t need their help. So if we are just the same as them, why would they go to the trouble of being polite? Men don’t go out of their way to open doors for other men all the time, so why should they open doors for someone who is trying her best to be a man?
It is very sad to me. I hope that someday, both women and men will realize what they have been missing–and maybe swishing skirts and hat-tipping will come back into fashion.
Hannah
Your comment couldn’t have been more keenly observed. In a very early post I’d mentioned that us men often “filter” certain ladies as being just like “one of the guys”, so we forget our manners (perhaps understandably).
As for your final comment, when that someday comes, it’ll be a fine day…
I hope your experiences as a lady will improve.
Gentleman
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Great post! Thank you so much for sharing, Gentleman.
Like so many of the other girls on here, I appreciate the encouragement you post offers to those of us who attempt to dress modestly. There are days when this is exactly what we need to hear.
Wow, this second section just got my heart pumping… I’d never realized how girls can make an impression without even knowing it… Now I’m going to really have a thing in my mind all the time about what I do!
THanks for everyone’s comments, it’s really interesting to see all the feedback and different opinions!!
Rachel
I very much hope that the impression you create will cause the men around you to treat you with the kind of respectful friendlieness that anyone would welcome.
Whatever happens, don’t go through life witfeeling too self-conscious about the way you think others perceive you – that can turn your mind into a pretzel. I’ve been there….. Please – Just be yourself. Be a girl. ^_^ And I hope you have fun doing so! ^_^
Thank you – for your comments
Bless you
Gentleman
Please excuse my spelling. I just noticed – in one or two places it’s horrible … ^_^
seriously THANK YOU so much for sharing these! they are such an encouragement!
Amanda
I know that a couple of data points don’t necessarily establish a trend or a rule, but as a guy, I just wanted to affirm the Gentleman’s list. Totally right on! Well done, sir. If I might be so bold as to suggest another point, I would also say that most God-honoring guys I know love it when gals ask for our opinions. From my perspective, this is because:
1) It demonstrates a desire to live out Proverbs 11:14, “Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.”
2) It shows humility, especially in a world where most people tend to go their own way, right in their own eyes.
3) It encourages a right-thinking man in his leadership, especially when coupled with the realization that an off-the-cuff opinion might not be helpful at all, but that when you take a moment to mentally or physically search the Scriptures for your answer, there is edification and growth for all involved.
Sorry, I know I’m a bit late to the discussion, but as a newcomer, I just really wanted to chime in and express my appreciate for this post, and for your blog.
LP
To the Gentleman that wrote this post:
I have to compliment you on your writing! The little, one paragraph descriptions you gave for each #, was delicious to read–as a reader-and practicing writer!! (Or..maybe I should say “Wanna-be-writer” hehe.)
This post was encouraging and fun to read!,
Lissie
This so touched and encouraged me! Thank you! And it made me blush….
Blessings to you all!
In HIm,
Katherine